I’m thrilled to publish this guest post from a fellow blogger who has had body image issues, but who has emerged stronger and wiser because of them. I really identify with the reasons that Adria gives in this post about why she is happier being over her “goal” weight.
When I e-mailed Adria to let her know how much I liked her post, I expressed that while I’m still getting used to the weight that I’ve gained in recent months, I do feel that I’m making progress in finding that balance between not over-thinking what I eat and choosing the foods that benefit my health.
Ultimately, though, I feel TONS better not starving myself and giving myself the freedom to eat what and when I want, even if I’m not 100% perfect. Lesson for me: trying to be perfect means misery, but being kind and gentle with myself means peace.
Please share your thoughts in the comments section and enjoy this insightful post from Adria!
Hi! I’m Adria DeCorte, and I blog actionable advice and inspiration for simplifying clean living over at Healthy Vegas Vegan. When I read Carrie’s recent posts about disordered eating, they struck a chord with me. Her words rang true to my own struggles as a recovering food perfectionist.
And it’s a trend I see in many of the vegan women I coach. My wellness clients are beautiful, wonderful women. But, like many of us, they have a history of reaching for an unattainable ideal. I guide them to relax perfectionist tendencies and realize how amazing they already are.
Sure, cleaning up my diet and lifestyle to release 40 pounds was the best thing I ever did for myself. But in case you struggle with some of the same issues as Carrie and me, I want to share how gaining 10 pounds above my “goal” weight has helped me find that crucial but elusive balance between self-care and body-love.
I found that when I was trying to perfect my body, every little thing that didn’t fit my vision of perfection bugged me. Now at 10 pounds heavier, I still have the same thigh jiggle, just on a little bit bigger thighs.
I’m learning to love my body as is.
Here are a few reasons I’m happier being over my “goal” weight:
It’s easier to maintain.
From a history of calorie counting, I’ve finally trained myself to listen to my body’s signals. I still eat a clean diet of whole plant foods, but I don’t feel the need to tightly control everything anymore. After loosening up, I was surprised to stabilize at a healthy weight. Frankly, no one else notices the difference.
I can eat the delicious (vegan) treats my sister makes.
I’m less strict with my diet which means allowing myself occasional indulgences like the cinnamon rolls she made from scratch recently! It’s helped me to see past rules and build a healthier relationship with food.
I fill out my clothes more.
I have a naturally boxy figure so I don’t mind having more lady curves. As an added female-specific bonus, the extra body fat helped my hormones balance out and finally stabilized my cycle.
I don’t weigh myself every day anymore.
This is huge! Before I was so scared of gaining weight back that I would weigh myself every morning so I could catch it early. This often led to starting my day with a mood-killer if I was “up”. Now, using the scale is an occasional thing, and, to be honest, I avoid it as often as possible.
It’s time for us to get comfortable in our own skin, whatever size that may be.
Yes, go ahead and clean up your diet, get fit, and lose a little weight if need be. Especially if it makes you feel sexier and increases your quality of life.
But, please don’t obsess over it. And, don’t worry if your healthy natural weight ends up being more than your “goal” weight.
Since I love Carrie’s blog and community, I’m happy to share the following recipe from my cookbook: Quick and
Dirty Clean. Combining healthfulness with indulgence, this simple two-ingredient blend will definitely make you want to eat more greens! To make it even easier, thaw out frozen mango and use pre-packaged salad greens mix.
- 1 ½ red bell peppers, coarsely chopped
- 1 ½ cups mango flesh (peeled and pitted)
- Small handful chives (optional)
- Blend the bell pepper, mango, and chives until creamy. Add water (or lemon juice) as needed if you desire a thinner dressing. Done!
Thanks to Carrie for allowing me space to talk about this key issue. Come say hi over at Healthy Vegas Vegan where I help vegan women fall in love with their bodies through nourishing foods and self-compassion.